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Happy Women’s History Month!

Greetings and a warm salutation to everyone, especially to all of the women who’s curiosity were piqued enough to take a moment to drop in on this post! I want to send my regards to you for being among the active living and compliment each one of you on doing all you can to keep YOU in the best health possible so that you can continue to enjoy YOUR life!

I received an email from one of the director’s of a program I oversee, asking me if I would be interested in making a presentation in recognition of Women’s History Month; needless to say, I was truly honored.  I could not make the presentation, therefore, I wrote it out and emailed it to her. I didn’t find out until I returned to work that the email never made it to her 😦

These were the guiding questions she asked for talking points:

Who are you, Roles, Experiences; and I was fine with all of that until I read… What defines you as a woman?

I had to really think about how to respond to this question because I never think about myself in that way. WOW! It was a bit difficult for me to wrap my head around a response and I had to dig a little for some answers. The first thing I thought about was what I do for others—family, friends, and the likes. I realized I had to isolate myself from those initial assumptions.

I asked some of the women I am close to, to answer the question and couple of them responded immediately and others had to think about it like me. Of course, you do not have to go into details as I did, but just by answering the question, “what defines you as a woman” would be really interesting to learn more about you, that would spark some dialogue. Please leave your comment below, I would appreciate it much!

So this is what I shared:

Who are you: Roles and Experiences

I have been working with the City of New York for the past 28 years, 14 with Housing Preservation and Development (HPD) and 14 with The Department for the Aging. When I came to DFTA in 2002, I worked with the WRAP (Weatherization Referral and Packaging) Unit, and in 2012 began working with the NORC Unit as a Program Manager, overseeing DFTA and City Council Funded NORC (Naturally Occurring Retirement Community) programs in Brooklyn and Manhattan. To say the least, it has been an eye-opening experience to see the work NORC staff does to assist with helping seniors age healthy in their own home.

My name is Pamela Nichols and I am a wife, mother, grandmother, sister and aunt to my family.  To ME, I am a photographer, videographer, DJ, and graphic artist—enthusiast of all, jack of some, and master of a few. I never thought of myself as being the creative type but discovered in my later years that, maybe there is an artistic bone that lives in my body.

I was a late bloomer when it came to education. I decided to take a break after graduating high school, and shortly after became a mom in my early twenties. I was lucky to have such a supportive family that permitted me to enroll in a community college where I made the Dean’s List in my first year which was a very proud moment for me.

A couple of years later I decided again, to take a break from school to find employment as I felt unfulfilled with just going to school—at that time I was approaching my thirties and had not yet established myself with gainful employment. I was just about to turn 30 years old when I landed a position with the City of New York and have been here ever since. I am gleefully looking forward to retirement in a few years!

In 1998, I returned to school and didn’t stop until I completed my master’s degree in 2008. I know, ten years it took me to finish but I did it! I was not in a rush as I had a full-time job; attaining my education was something I wanted to accomplish for ME, not for anything or anyone else, just me. I am forever grateful I was able to further my education with the push and support of my sister, Danielle.

For the most part, I paid my tuition out of pocket and, in 2004 I graduated with my Bachelors in Corporate Communications. It had always been important to me to be a good communicator and be mindful of presenting myself in a respectable manner in addition to learning the business culture of communications. In 2008, I graduated with my Masters in Urban Affairs. Since I had already been working with the City for 20 years, I had no plans on specializing in a particular “career” path. However, learning about how government, businesses, neighborhoods, and individual initiatives were all united to improve the quality of life and build wealth in urban communities while solving emerging issues, helped me to understand how the city and non-profits work hand in hand.

 

A woman’s innate attributes are obvious, WE ARE:
Nurturing
Compassionate
Sensitive
Perceptive
Empathetic
Sensual
Emotional
And possess strengths we, at times, cannot account for

What defines Pam as a woman?
I know when it’s time to take a break, in order to recharge my batteries
My happiness begins with me!
My confidence is quiet (like me at times) It is my natural expression of ability, expertise, and self-regard.
Although I am a mature woman, the girlie girl still lives inside of me
Things come fruition when I put my mind to it
My independence means:
I don’t have to ask for permission to live my life the way I see fit
I don’t have to do things with manipulation
I determine my own schedule, values, and prioritiesI am self-reliant
I Am:
A leader who positively encourages others
A Boss. Period
Patient, Easy Going, and Warm
Perceptive and Trustworthy
I live within myself by accepting the things I’d like to change about me but cannot

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Last but definitely not least, I would not be who I am without the grace of God who has bestowed many blessings upon me and my life.

Giving honor to the women who helped shaped my life:

My mother, grandmother, and aunt…

All eight of my lovely sisters inspire me to no end!  They are dynamic Women, who hold their own and are UNSTOPPABLE!  I love and adore you!!

In 2015, I posted a Women’s Herstory Month tribute where with a good cup or glass of something soothing, I hope you enjoy this read!

ALWAYS REMEMBER TO CELEBRATE YOU!

 

Dr. Angelou defines a WOMAN best, and I personally identify with
Phenomenal Woman

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them
They say they still can’t see.
I say,
It’s in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman

Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need of my care,
‘Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Maya Angelou
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Now, go on and have some fun, doing YOU!
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZJL4UGSbeFg

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Women Making HerStory Now!

In honor of Women’s HerStory Month/International Women’s Day I thought it would be appropriate for me to take a moment to reflect on the women I admire, respect, honor and whose inspiration has touched me in more ways than many.

 Women ROCK and I’ve always said that we can run this world; what do you think?

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Women’s HerStory in the Making!

I am ecstatic for the opportunity to celebrate the women in my life, my circle and those far and near including those I have yet to meet face to face.  From an array of disciplines including, but not limited to: music, graphic arts, education, singers, writers, designers, photographers, technology, activists, advocates, entrepreneurs, and fitness trainers these women have made a great impact on me and in many ways my life. Most of them may not even be aware of my high regard for them.

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I know many of you personally and some of the tribulations you have endured with significant-other relationships, family, the loss of loved ones, and health issues; yet you continue to push forward.  Life-threatening illnesses have ravaged your body, mind, and spirit, leaving you emotionally drained. Yet you are still here, as God has kept you fighting to show your strength to others.  You are sweet, bold, charming, outspoken, kind, even brazen at times; you’ve overcome adversity yet many of you maintain living with it and keep a smile on your face, constantly encouraging others without a second thought.

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By the same token, YOU are experiencing wonderful and fulfilling moments of merit and prosperity, where you display incredible energy that spreads like wildfire!!  I have been observing you excel from one level to the next, making great strides in your community and personally. You exhibit your wealth of knowledge and demonstrate positivity to those in which you come in contact.  I admire your intelligence and learn from your experiences more than you know. You have worked really hard at what you do; your talents have been observed by people in the right places that propelled you to higher heights, nationally and internationally!!

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It takes a tenacious, persistent woman to prepare her mind and body to decide now is the time to change your unhealthy eating habits and exercise for better health and a longer lifespan. You did that and huney, you look good!! I’m so proud of you!

You deserve recognition, support and most of all love—right now because you are doing the DAMNED thing—making HerStory NOW!

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Hopefully, you will take a moment, a minute, an hour, a day or whatever it takes to do something extraordinary for yourself, sometime real soon.  Give yourself the flowers you have truly earned  (whatever those flowers may be!).  I am telling you, you truly deserve them for all you do and have done for others, forsaking yourself, instead of putting YOU first.

Gurl, just

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Cheers Ladies!!!
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  This tribute is for you, my Sistas!!

The Honorees Are:

Abby Dobson

Adriane Ferguson

Adrienne Powers – My sister

Ajsha Pullin

Alecia Gillard

Alicia Hammond

Alethea Hardin

Alice TurboFleur

Alison Crockett

Alison Murry

Allecia Frye

Amma Whatt

Andrea Greene

Angel Monique

Angela Johnson

Anita Bryant

Anja

Annita Utra Shivdyal

Ann Marie Collymore

Annmarie Reynolds

Anshia Tull

Antoinette Jeanine

Antonia Jenae’

Ayesha Payne

Barbara McCarthy

Calandra Branch

Candy Davis

Caprice Starbrite Toddman

Carmen Berry

Carmen Farnum

Carmen Rodgers

Carole Eady

Carol Riddick

Cecilia Nolasco

Chante Ramsey

Choklate Moore

Chris Sidifall

Clementine Jackson

Colleen Rubino

Collette Blakeney

Cynthia Cruz

CynDiva Harcum

Danielle Davis – My sister

Danielle Hatchett

Daphne Lipford – My sister

Darlene Whittaker

Darnelle Gillisslee

Deborah Bond

Deborah Heffernan Hinds

Deone Murph Holder

Deeyjay Renay

Dereth Howell

Detrel Howell-Sapp

Dianne BestEver Nelson

Dianne Mommaship Washington

Doreen Massiah

Dyneka L. Lewis

Elsa Lathan

Emily Scott

Esnavi

Eulelia Pinky Johnson

Fiona Bloom

Frances Jaye

Francine Small

Gail DJflame Hall

Georgia Powers

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Harron Evoria

Iman Bianca Williams

Iola Anyan

Iris Brown

Ivana Kotov

Jacqueline Nesbitt

Janice Palmer

Janita Maria

Jarmelle Anderson – My sister

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Jennifer Ravis

Joann Gomez

Jodine Dorsey

Johnnie Savage-Waugh

Jolene Kay White Bethune

June Faulk

June Felix

Karen Bernod

Karen Smith

Kai Lane

Kateria Niambi

Kathy Powers – My sister

Kathy Watkins

Kathy Wilkins

Katie Piper

Kaylan Nelson

KeJuan Stroud

Kelli Sae

Kendra Ross

Kerri Simmons

Kierra Benefield

KiKi Kawkins

Kim Hernandez

Kim Namaste Berry

Kimberly Hines

Kimberly-Howell-Johnson

Kimberly Nichole

Kitchen Rebel

Kym Scott

Lady Vee Ongpauco

La’Kiesha Underwood

Lalah Hathaway

LaShawn Jacobs

Latisha Banks

Laura Garris

LaVerne Francis

LaVonne Thompson

Ledisi

Leslie McNair-Wilder

Linda Simmons

Linda Taylor Pryor

Lisa Bryant

Lisa Stanton

Liv Warfield

Lorenda Robinson

Lori Leff

Lorraine Bailey

Louella Byers

Luznerida Rosado

Lydia Berry-Pearson

Macheka Williams-Roach

Marie Rush

Marilyn Douglas

Marlena Latif

Marlo Bracey

Mary Brown

Mary Frye

Mary Pryor

Maya Azucena

Maysa Leak

Mercy Harris

Michelle Gillenwater

Michelle Harrlem Holmes

Michelle Jenkins

Michelle R. Smith

Mika Deharlem

Mildred Fallen

Millie Barbot

Minister Rasha Patterson

Monet Cherise

Monique Thomas

MsElle Emme Esse

Natalie McGregory

Nay Marie

N’Dambi

Nikki Norwood

Nina Morena

NORC Program Directors (Naturally Occurring Retirement Community) are challenged in numerous ways; 100% caregivers, advocates, and nurturers to New York City’s vibrant and frail Senior Citizens!!  Ladies, you are doing phenomenal work!

Norma Brown

Norma Hendricks

Pam Beck

Pamela Kellum

Pamela Henry

Pamela Nichols

Pamela Stevenson

Patience Morton

Patricia Knowles Ford

Paula Ralph-Birkett

Pepper Thomas

Perquida Williams

Phyllis Johnson

RaRe Valverdi

Raquel Carter

Regine Ridore

Renee Michele Barton-Rose

Renee Sheffey

Robyn Frye

Rosalie Astacio

Rose Ordonez Jenkins

Ruscelle Williams

Ruth Cordero

Sandra Kizum

Sandra Faye Tucker

Sania’ Jones

Sarah J. Hill

Sarah Jones

Sarah Huny Young

Selina Donaldson

Shani Elliot

Sharon Quinn

Shereen Lewis

Shiane Lee

Silawn Lewis

Stacey Sheffey

Stephanie Renee

Stephanie Thomas Gonzalez- My sister

Stevie Robinson

Sunshine Brown

Sy Smith

Tahesha Paige

Tonya L. Brown

Tonya Johnson

Tara Powers – My sister

Theresa Thomas

Tiffany Taylor

TJ Scruggs

Tonya Dillard-Johnson

Tonya L. Brown

Tra’ Love Peace

Tracey Hodges

Tracy Freeman

Tracy Laramore

Tracy Lymus

Tracy Lynn Deis

Tricia Angus

Trina Broussard

Valerie Smith

Vanessa El

Vanessa Hill

Vee Lisa C Walker

Victoria Warren

Vivian Sessoms

Wanda Bennett

Wandetta Benton

YahZarah

Zoila Noella

My mother, Ernestine Blutcher Thomas Webb, my sister Sophia Thomas, and my grandmother Arrie Lee Cox Blutcher are at rest but are included in this tribute because of their words of encouragement, wisdom, and everlasting love.  There is an empty place in my life for all of them as I miss their faces, hugs, and kisses, but most of all their voices, because no matter how near or far, they were just a mere phone call away…

I’m sure that there are more women who have touched my life in one way or another and if I have not mentioned her here, I can only attribute it to my mind, and not my heart…Just knowing you has given me insight and courage to excel to aspire to be every woman I so desire to be.